What is romance? The New Lexicon Webster’s Dictionary defines romance as “a medieval literary form, initially old French or Provengal, dealing with deeds of chivalry or with historical or mythological events seen in the perspective of a medieval court”. This definition suggests that romance is rooted in a man’s “good behavior”.
It is interesting that there is no reference to sex. What is the connection between romance and sex? I can still hear my father’s words “romance is the fuel that helps start a woman’s engine.” This early advice suggests that we have to turn our partner on before we can go for a ride.
I do not recall learning much about romance in school. Sex education was an awkward class for most students and we covered up our embarrassment with bad jokes and silly one-liners. We may have learned about safe sex, but we missed the important lessons on romance. My marriage license did not come with a romance manual either.
My initial attempts at romance involved lighting some inexpensive candles and spraying on strong cologne. It was probably easier for my wife to find my scented body in the low light conditions; however, the aura and aroma that I created must have been a real turn-off. During those early dating years, I was learning about romance through trial and error.
My formal education on romance occurred during the development of Syncrohearts. The R&D work included relationship surveys, interviews with professionals and discussions with couples. My research revealed some important stuff on sex and romance and the “romance findings” were life changing for me. I learned that when romance is celebrated everyday, it inspires more love, harmony and happiness in the relationship. I discovered that romance builds true intimacy, which then leads to a very satisfying and exciting sex life.
I also discovered that romance and sex were good for us. Studies have proven that sex lowers stress and improves our well-being. Regular sex lowers the risk of heart disease and nothing gives the heart muscle a workout quite like making love. Even kissing and hugging have health perks too! These intimate exercises stimulate the release of the bonding hormone oxytocin and this helps to lower blood pressure. I would like to go back and ask my high school sex education teacher why we were never taught about all of the health benefits of sex and romance. Perhaps this information was intentionally kept out of the curriculum, because if we knew that sex was good for us, we would never have got our homework done.
Do you want to experience great sex? Then celebrate your relationship with more romance. Romance starts with good communication and continues with kindness and compassion. Do not wait until February 14 to don your romantic cape. Be creative and spontaneous and surprise your partner with loving treats. Cupid might suggest writing a love note, cooking their favorite dinner, or offering them a nice massage!
Article by Bobby J. O’Neal
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Inventor of Syncrohearts Relationship Game
“The Game You Love to Play and Play to Love”
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