BY KRISTEN THOMPSON
METRO VANCOUVER
June 03, 2010 5:56 a.m.
Direct link: http://www.metronews.ca/vancouver/local/article/541133–ex-dancer-talks-hookups
Vancouver women who think men won’t approach them because they’re too independent may be on to something, says a former exotic dancer.
Ryann Rain will be part of a panel of experts at Let’s Talk About Sex: Getting Some, which is being put on by the Vancouver Dating Guide on Sunday.
If it’s so easy for a woman to pick up, why are men not approaching them?
“Men get nervous and don’t necessarily know how to approach. As women are stepping into their own and aren’t apologizing for their sexuality, a lot of men are backing off.”
What can women do to become more approachable?
“Men like to chase and coming on too strong doesn’t work. I recommend the obvious flirting. Look and smile, glance and walk away, but (let) the guys approach.”
What should women avoid?
“Groups of women are intimidating. Keep the environment open. Treat people how you desire to be treated.”
Where is a good place to pick up?
“Kits Beach, the seawall, coffee shops … Get out of the house and go somewhere.”
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See you Sunday.
Thank you Metro News Vancouver.
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In my opinion, men might be hesitant to approach women because in the era of online dating, women treat finding a guy to date like shopping for shoes. It is my sense that they are looking for perfection, and have become way too picky. It’s easy to try and find someone “better”. As a result, they are less open to genuine attempts by guys to get to know them, making guys in turn more hesitant … and to be honest, pissed off. Women in Vancouver need to get off their white horses.
I agree with Erics comment about many Vancouver women treating finding a guy like shopping for shoes.
When I first came to Canada from the U.K. I remember telling my sister that women here seem to approach finding a guy like shopping for a car. This car (guy) is OK but it has white leather upholstery and hmm Im sorry I’m really looking for beige.
Also being seen as a wallet on legs isn’t usefull either. The strange Vancouver mix of being strong independent women, yet when it comes to dating, ‘wanting to be treated like a lady’ code for man pays or he’s cheap and not getting a second look.
Well Dale, that’s basically because we have our ex-hookers as dating therapists in these here parts boy… Where else can’ya go but a strip club or a Vancouver date and the girl will be, like the lady said ‘’obvious flirting. Look and smile, glance ((like you said, ‘check’in your wallet for the appropriate content’)) and walk away’’…. Less’in of course, your will’in to pay.
You see their, boy… It’s the feminists and the hookers that are running this here dam town! One’s teaching the young’ns selfishness while the other’s teaching’m exploitation. That’s why you see so many of us good old white boys chasing after them foreign jobs now-a-day (not the bananas tho, if you catch my drift).
Anyways, you ain’t likely to find what we would call ‘good quality women’ from these here parts, or at a hook up like diss…
I suppose it is tough to meet people. Good luck guys.